Susanmillers Blog

My life as a heterosexual crossdresser.

Awesome Wednesday night meeting with our Attorney

Well it has been an awesome afternoon and evening. It started about 4 when Cassandra sent out a text that the Judge had issued his decision in our case against the P-Club and Chris Penner for discriminating against our group by kicking us out of his club. Our Attorney Sue-Del McCulloch wanted to meet with us at Fox & Hound tonight and tell us what she could. Now I had not planned on going out tonight but there was no way I was going to miss this. I actually started getting ready as soon as I got the text.

I got to Fox & Hound by 6:15 and Cassandra, Chris, Kim and Victoria were already there. I guess we were all excited to hear what Sue-Del had to say even though she wouldn’t be here till 7:30 to 8 pm. Well it wasn’t long and Kelly, Christine, Mellissa and Sarah showed up. Actually tonight was Sarah’s first night out with the group as she just joined our group a couple days ago. It was awesome to meet her and such an exciting night to be out. Petra, Jan, Lynn and a few others even showed up, I think we had maybe 15 of us there by 7.

We were all waiting for Sue-Del and we knew it was good news as she had told Cassandra that much. Well Sue-Del showed up about 8 and we all couldn’t wait. Now she couldn’t go into a lot of details as the Judge’s decision won’t be made public till Friday 8-30-2013 when it is released to the media which is also the reason this blog will be posted a little later than normal. It is kind of symbolic that the judge released his decision on our discrimination suit on the 50 year anniversary of the walk on Washington and the day Martin Luther King Jr. gave his speech “I have a dream”. Any way Sue-Del told us that the Judge supported found that Chris Penner had in fact discriminated against us and violated our rights under state law.

We are all thrilled with the verdict and actually very surprised at how fast all this has happened. I can remember when we sat together at the Rainbow room on July 11 2012 (thank god for my blog) and talked about if we should go and meet with Beth Allen our first attorney. She had seen the YouTube video Cassandra had posted of Chris Penner telling us not to come back because we were transgender. Here we are a little over 13 months later with a ruling in our favor. I think most of us thought it would take a year or so just to investigate and then a year or more to work its way through the system. Beth Allen started our case but as she was appointed to be a Judge in February she got us in touch with Sue-Del who agreed to take over our case and we as a group were truly blessed to have had two such incredible, supportive attorneys to help us we can never thank them enough.

Now we all realize that this is not over as Chris Penner will almost for sure appeal the decision and we all expected this and in a way I think in a way we are excited about him appealing it. We look at it this way, several years back I think in 2007 the state of Oregon past a law protecting transgender people from discrimination. Actually the law basically says that transgender people have the rights of the gender they present as. Now we all know that laws can be passed but it can always be challenged in court. Well this law has and it stood up which is great for all transgender people and not just in Oregon as many States and cities have passed similar laws and now there has been a Judge that upheld it. Now this was an administrative hearing and Judge so having it go on to the State appeals court and getting them to support the law and uphold transgender rights would be huge. We really have a long road ahead and I think it will be at least 2 to 5 more years to go through the appeals process. The best thing is that this will send a message to all businesses that if they do discriminate against Transgender people they will be held accountable and will face huge legal action.

I am truly proud to be a part of this and such a wonderful group here in Oregon. There were 13 of us that were able to step up and make a stand and many more in our group that for one reason or another were unable to but were always there supporting us, it truly was a team effort and I hope all of the members are proud of this wonderful group or should I say family of people.

I really want to Thank the following people and let them know how much they have helped us and what an impact they have made on our lives and all transgender people.

Beth Allen our first Attorney

Sue-Del McCulough our current attorney

Brad Avakian the commissioner of BOLI

Chet Nakada the hearing presenter for BOLI

Jen also a hearing presenter from BOLI

You all are awesome people.

Couple more links Here is an video interview and story.

Well Friday night I will once again be out with my friends and we will be celebrating so it will be an awesome night. I am really looking forward to it as I am sure many others in our group will be as it will be our first chance to talk after this is made public and release to the media. None of us know what the future holds for us but I know for me this experience will be one of the highlights of my life.

August 30, 2013 Posted by | Fox & Hound, P-Club | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Long busy week but made it to Starbucks for a break.

Well it has been a long and busy week for my male self, early mornings and late nights made for little sleep so by tonight I was ready for some time for Susan to go out and relax. It still amazes me that no matter how busy or stressed out I get just a few hours as Susan and I everything is calm and peaceful again. even tonight I was rushing to get ready as I did not get home till 6 pm and to be to the Starbucks I go to I need to leave my house by 6:45, well didn’t quite make that but was out by 7 so not bad for a complete transformation. The only thing I forgot was to throw my cell phone in my purse not that I get that many calls. It is amazing that when you are running late the amount of traffic and red lights you hit. Any way I made it out and now I am relaxing at my favorite Starbuck’s.

They are not as busy this week as last week, not sure if it is because I am here on Thursday night and last week was Wednesday but either way always nice to be here and people watch while working on my computer. Starbuck’s really is a nice place to go as you get such a wide range of people coming here and the fact they have Wi-Fi so you can surf the internet is wonderful. It is funny as a guy I never went to Starbuck’s still doesn’t, but as Susan I so enjoy it. The fact it is such a laid back place is wonderful.

Well this week’s plans are the same, Friday night I will be out with my friends again at the P-Club. It is always so much fun to get together with everyone and have fun. Wilma is back in town and hopefully will make it out with us this week. It will be great to see her again and catch up on what she has been doing; you know a little girl talk.

I had hoped to get Saturday off but couldn’t work it out. Seems one of the local stores, Nordstrom’s is having a class at one of their stores on male to female and drag queen makeup. It is in one of their rooms and cost is only $35 and then after you get a $35 credit at the MAC counter. How cool is that and since I use MAC foundation that would have been perfect but I have to work so I miss out on this, I hope they will do it again and maybe have a little more notice next time. Several of the girls from our group are going so I hope they can give me some tips they learn. Some of the girls are talking about lunch and shopping afterwards. That would be so much fun. I think I may try to plan a shopping trip in the not too distant future as Susan can always use some knew outfits, plus even if I don’t buy anything it is still fun to be out.

I also would like to maybe go out to dinner or a movie, I have talked with Peggy and Barb both about this and they also think it is a good idea so I may work that in to my week even though it may mean missing Starbuck’s one week but I think I can live with that. I think doing new things really is important as it keeps things new and exciting. It also get us as a group out more in the public eye and lets them see there is no difference between us and them other than how we dress. The more we get out the more we will be accepted I hope.

Well it is slowing down here now and only a few people here, they still have customers coming in and getting drinks but they are all to go. I must sign off as I have a bunch of e-mails to get to. I also need to do some grocery shopping which I have been putting off so what better way to end my night that at a grocery store.

Have a great rest of the week.

June 30, 2011 Posted by | Starbucks | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why spend the time and effort for such a short time out as Susan.

Well it has been a really busy week again and it turns out tonight was my only chance to get out to Starbucks for a couple hours. I was thinking earlier about why even with being so busy it is so important to me to be able to find time to be Susan. I guess when you think about it, it does seem silly. I start getting ready no later than 5:30 so I can be to Starbucks by 7 or slightly past. I can only stay till 9 as that is when they close then drive home and change back and remove my makeup so I can be in bed by 10. I guess if you just look at the time and effort involved for that 2 hours most people would not do it but then I am not most people.

I love the whole experience from the time spent getting ready and even the time removing the makeup for bed. There is something fun and relaxing about the whole thing for me. I was chatting with a girl online and she could not understand how I found it fun. In her words if you had to do it every day you would look at it different. She probably has a point but I pointed out that I only become Susan twice a week with the exception of Diva Las Vegas. Now you can’t compare us equal as most woman start wearing makeup in their early teens and they probably have done their makeup every day since. Now for me it is only twice a week so I have not done my make up enough for the fun to wear off, plus I do my makeup because I want to not because I feel I have too. But more than that it is what I like and it is just that simple.

I have a friend that goes to the gym 4 nights a week. It is a 10 minute drive for her to get there and she spends about an hour and a half there then has to shower afterwards and then drive home. It is something she likes to do. She likes to work out and she also enjoys the time out of the house. There really is no different. Everyone has things they like to do it really is that simple for me. The nights I go out as Susan when I get home I am so relaxed and I sleep so well on those nights. I can’t tell you how relaxing it is to step outside your regular life and put it all aside for even a few hours. While I am Susan I forget all about my male life, work family and anything else that my male side deals with just stops and does not exist. I can only imagine how calm and relaxed the world would be if everyone could put their life aside for a few hours every week.

Well as I said I am at Starbuck’s tonight and they are really busy. Strange as when I got here there were only a few cars but inside they were packed, I guess most walked as it is pretty nice outside. The only table was way in the back corner so it is a little harder to people watch tonight. I can’t really see the front door but I do get a good look out the window which looks out on a busy corner, lots of cars and even people walking by so I can watch some.

Any way while I was standing in line the one girl making the drinks asked me if I wanted my usual and told me I could go sit down so I got to bypass the whole line which was nice. I guess the fact I come here all the time has its advantages. When she called my drink I went to get it and pay for it and she told me not to worry about it which also was very nice. I had the money in my hand so just put it in the tip cup for them. All the girls here have always treated me great so I always like to leave a tip. Now don’t get me wrong I don’t tip just to tip but when you are treated great and have great service then a tip is well deserved.

I have been here over an hour and all the tables are still full and I think they are all the same people who were here when I got here with the exception of the couple at the next table they came in about 30 minutes ago. It is good to see them busy as I have been here on night when they had no one here.

Well I must be getting to other things before they close. I will leave you with my advice to a happy life. Find something you really enjoy and then make it a part of your life. Doing something you love regular is the best way to stay happy. The days leading up to it are filled with anticipation and then you have the fun of doing it and afterward you have the memory of it so if you do something fun every week it is always in your thoughts and that will put a smile on your face. Your stress will go down which will make you feel better, look better and everyone around you will wonder why you are so happy. Feel free to share this tip with your family and friends as the best advice is always free. Tonight is not even over and I am already looking forward to Friday night when I will once again be out with all my wonderful friends.

Thanks for stopping by and reading.

June 22, 2011 Posted by | Advice and tips, Starbucks | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Beautiful night at Starbucks

Well it has been such a busy week for me that this is the first chance I have had to get on my blog so this post will cover both Friday night and tonight. I did make it out last Friday with my friends but did not have any time to get on the computer and blog about. I had to be up early so I only planed on staying out till 11:30 so I could be home in bed by midnight; well we all know how well that worked out.

I got there at 7:30 and soon others started to show up. We had a good turn out as normal for a Friday night. Melissa showed up and brought her friend Heather and they are both so much fun. We played partners at shuffle board and Heather was my partner. The game was really close but in the end we lost to Melissa and her partner but it was such a fun time.

Later on as it was getting close to time for me to leave Cassandra and I decided to play a game of shuffle board against each other no partners. We were just getting ready to start when 2 guys came over and asked if they could play, their names were Neil and Guy. They were pretty cool and had no problems with playing against T-Girls even when we won the first game. We had just finished the first game when 2 GG’s came over; one was Neil’s wife and the other I think was Guy’s girlfriend, her name was Gina. Wow amazed I can remember their names. They were so nice and thought it was great we beat them at shuffle board. The second game was a lot closer and in the end they won on the last shot. It was a fun time.

After the game they thanked us for the game. Gina and I started talking and we must have talked for 20 minutes, mostly about our group and why we dress. She was totally cool with it though. Well after she left I checked the time and it was after 1 am, so much for my plan to be home early. I got to bed about 2 am and up at 6:30 so it was a really short night.

Well let’s move forward to Thursday night now. I am out at Starbuck’s and Melissa showed up which is always nice as it is so much more fun to have someone else with you. She is working on a blanket for her mom; yes she is knitting a blanket. It is a really nice time talking to her and watching her knit.

The day turned out really nice and sunny which is such a change and allowed me to wear some summer outfits, white Capri pants and a cute top. The only bad part is the Starbucks I go to faces the sun set so I either have the sun in my eyes or I sit the other way and then it shines on my computer and I can’t see the screen so I sit facing the sun plus that way I can also see the door and who comes in and goes out.

Tomorrow night Friday the group will be out again at the P-Club. We should have a good turn out as one of our members is having a birthday so we are doing a party for her. It is also our GG night where we try to get non transgender people there. It should be a great night. I will post again this weekend.

Thanks for stopping by.

June 16, 2011 Posted by | Starbucks | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Relaxing night at Starbucks

Well it has been another long and busy week and I was not even sure I would make it out. It seems the really busy weeks are the weeks I really need my time as Susan as it so relaxes me. It is strange as I have tried to explain this to people and for the most part those who do not dress have a hard time understanding this. Probably the biggest question I get is how I can be relaxed going out dressed as Susan. They all seem to think my feelings would be more excitement or fear not a calm relaxed feeling. Now I will admit then when I first started going out there was a lot of fear and excitement and it was such a rush. Now there are still time I feel these things too but there is something so calming about spending time as Susan. I really think it is the whole experience of being Susan from the doing my makeup, selecting my outfit and even when I get home and have to wash all traces of Susan away. I just really enjoy the whole experience.

Well as I said it has been a busy week and I didn’t get home till 6 pm so I was rushed which is something that takes a little away from the evening. I managed to get showered and ready in under an hour so I was at Starbucks by 7:10 which really amazed me, now I will admit that with the nice weather and bright sun shine I did go more natural with my makeup especially on my eyes so this saved a little time.

When I got to Starbucks they were not really busy which made it easy to get a table. Most of the customers are sitting outside at the tables and I really thought about sitting out there but the battery life for my computer is about an hour. It is an older computer and not the best so I really need to be able to plug it in. It would be so fun to sit outside in the sun shine. It really is quiet inside only 3 of us; everyone else is outside or getting drinks to go but still a good night out.

I have been able to catch up on all my e-mails and even been chatting with a couple friends on line. Not in a chat room just on yahoo and face book. I tried a chat room a few weeks back and this girl just couldn’t keep up. It was kind of funny as I had my web cam going and I think that attracts everyone because in wasn’t in the chat room 5 minutes and I had about 15 private chats going on plus the chat room. I just couldn’t keep up and what was worse I would start to answer one message when another would pop up and I would end up sending the reply to the wrong person. I have friends that can juggle multiple chats at once but not this girl.

I still have a couple really busy weeks ahead of me so Susan time will be so needed. I will be out tomorrow night with my friends as I try never to miss that and next week it looks like the only night I may be able to make Starbuck’s is Tuesday night. So at this point that is my plan.

I was checking the Diva Las Vegas web page and they are almost done taking pictures from this past year and then there are several weeks where those who attended can view and ask for any pictures they are in to be removed. I think they will post for everyone to see around the first of August. There really are some great pictures. If you have ever thought about going you should check out their web page and look at past years pictures. It really is an awesome time if you are looking for a fun vacation.

June 9, 2011 Posted by | Starbucks | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Cold and wet night but Susan made it out.

Well it is still cold and wet and almost the end of May, what is up with this weather. Now I know I really have nothing to complain about considering the weather that the central part of our country is having. So many tornadoes and so many deaths, that my heart goes out to them. We have been having severe weather all over the place from a really cold and snowy winter to flooding and now tornadoes I guess I can put up with the weather we are having here in the Pacific Northwest.

Well it has been a super busy week for me that I haven’t even had time to think about Susan much less get her out. Which I guess is better than thinking about going out and not being able to. I have worked or rather my male side has worked 11 days straight now so I could get this weekend off, well at least Saturday and Sunday. Susan is so looking forward to it as she has plans both Friday and Saturday.

Tonight though I did make it out and as I did not know I could make it tonight till about noon today it was a last minute outing but still better than not being able to go out. Well I of course came to Starbuck’s for a little relaxing and work on my computer. Now I could have just as easy done this at home but I find I have fewer distractions here at Starbucks and so I actually can get more done. Plus just sitting at home is not nearly as much fun as being out.

The Starbuck’s I go to pretty much once a week is really great all the girls that work there know me well Susan and they know what I want so I don’t even really have to order. They were a little busy tonight but I was able to get a table close to the front where I could people watch as I work on my computer. It really is nice and glancing around no one even seems to pay any attention to me. I know I don’t fully pass but I seem to be accepted and that is really a great feeling.

Friday I will be out with my wonderful friends again at the P-Club. After missing last Friday I am so ready for it. Our Friday nights are once again becoming the biggest night out for our group. When you think about it, it is kind of strange. Our group, the Rose_City_T-Girls has 2 big nights out. Friday and Wednesday and then several of the girls get out on Sunday and even a few on Tuesday lately. You would think that Saturday night would be the big night but really nothing goes on that night. Fridays at the P-Club is so awesome as there is so much to do and everyone has a great time plus most of the regulars like us there so it is a really friendly place to go.

Saturday evening I have a BBQ to go to. Now there will be a few T-girls there but most of the guest’s will be non gender gifted (not sure how to word this so this will have to do). Rachel who is holding the BBQ is totally awesome and loves us T-Girls, she comes out a couple times a year and knows a few of us really well so she invited us to her BBQ. I am really looking forward to it as it will be nice to mingle and chat with all her friends. It is cool as she sent the invitation out on Facebook so I can see those who have accepted and several of them are T-Girl friends of mine. I really hope the weather is good or at least not cold and wet as that would mess up my hair and makeup. Strange as a guy I would stand in the rain and be totally fine but Susan worries about how she looks.

Well must get back to work but I will post again more this weekend about the P-0Club and the BBQ and hopefully have some pictures.

May 26, 2011 Posted by | Starbucks | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Beautiful sunny day out at Starbuck’s

Well this week has been so busy; I had hoped to go to Starbuck’s on Thursday night as I am busy every other night this week through next Tuesday. Well I got home from work and found out the meeting I had scheduled for tonight was changed to tomorrow night killing my chance for going out. As I did not want to miss a chance this week I made a last minute decision to go to Starbuck’s tonight. I really hate being rushed and not planning my time out as Susan but I also knew if I didn’t go tonight I would not get a chance again till the end of next week.

It is a beautiful day here low 70’s and sunny which we have not had for a long time, actually this is the warmest day we have had sense last September so I was happy all day. We have had so much rain any sun is good. Well as I was leaving my house my neighbor got home, she was carrying her groceries in when I pulled out so I really don’t think she saw me as it looked like her back was to me but with it being light later and the nice weather starting I hope I am sure it will be harder to get out without being seen.

I got to Starbucks right at 7 and there was only 1 other person inside so I had my choice of tables. Even now there are only 3 of us inside and a couple out on the patio. I really think everyone is enjoying the nice night outside.

Well I have a new topic for my blog tonight. Moderating blogs and groups. A couple blogs I follow and a group I belong to has been dealing with this issue lately. So as this is my blog to post my views I thought I would step into the debate. Now as I have put in earlier blogs I am pretty open to comments on my blog. I don’t expect everyone to agree with me but I do expect to be treated with respect. I have had a few comments that thought how I chose to live my life is wrong and they don’t like it and that is fine as all did it without being cruel or calling me names so those were approve. I think I have only denied 2 and that was because they verbally attacked me instead of stating their opinion. That I will not allow.

Well back to moderating blogs or group, what we all need to remember is 2 simple things. One the person or persons who own or run the group or blog have the right to do whatever they want, it belongs to them. It is no different then you doing something to your car or home, I have no right to tell you how you should paint your house or car anymore then you should tell me what I have to put on my blog. If you want to have free rein to post whatever you want then you need to start a blog or group of your own. Now for the blogs I follow I do not know what the comments was that were deleted but it was the right of the owner of the blog to do that. From the postings I saw it appears that they were attacks on the person writing the blog.

Groups are a whole other story as it is a community of members and the owner / moderators need to do what is best for the group as a whole. If posts are causing issues in the group, if they are attacking other members, if they are dividing the group then they not only have the right but the duty to moderate for the group. It is just the same as the city or county we live in, there are laws (rules) that are put in place to keep peace and harmony. I feel we can express how we feel and our view without causing problems if we are careful and think before we post. I guess what I am saying is think how it will sound to others before you post. I will give a couple examples of what I mean.

“Wow I really don’t care for that dress you are wearing” fine

“Wow I really don’t care for that dress you are wearing, it makes you look like a slut” not okay as this attacks the person and really has nothing to do with your liking the dress or not. In this last case I would delete the post so what I am saying is I support the right of people ton police their blogs and groups.

Well as I said earlier I will not make it out this Friday with the group which is sad as I so look forward to spending time with my friends. But with missing this week I will have the whole Memorial Day weekend off which will be great. I still hope to get to Starbucks again next week, probably Thursday or Tuesday not sure yet. I will also be out on next Friday with my friends and also on Saturday at a BBQ. That will be fun as it is at a friend’s house who only knows me as Susan but most of the guest are not t-girls. I just hope the weather is good. Wow if I do go to Starbucks Thursday that would be 3 nights in a row, maybe I should try to do Starbucks Tuesday next week. I guess I could also skip Starbucks and go shopping for a new outfit for the BBQ. Well we will see what next week looks like.

Well I guess I will close here, have a great week and please if you post to a group, blog or anyplace else, you can agree or disagree but please be respectful. The world is a whole lot better place when we treat each other with respect.

May 18, 2011 Posted by | Advice and tips, Starbucks | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Friday night B-Day party at the P-Club

Well it was another fun Friday night out with friends at the P-Club. Two of our members have Birthdays this week so we celebrated them Friday with a party, yes on Friday the 13th. Roxy and Cassandra, Cassandra is the one who started our little group which now has 203 members in 3 ½ years. Anyway we had a great turnout Friday night again maybe 25 from our group were there and we all had a great time. Peggy, Cassandra’s wife brought cake for the big event and we all sang Happy Birthday to them and just had a really good time. Cassandra on left and Roxy on right in picture.

The P-Club was really busy Friday night again so we had a good chance to mingle with the rest of the customers which is always fun. I was thinking about it and we have been going to the P-Club about a year now and I can’t remember any negative reactions to us being there, everyone I have talked with seems okay with us being there or even enjoys us there. Now I am sure there have been and they didn’t say anything to us, they either just left or said something to the staff but from how crowded they were last night.

Most of us had dinner and then we cut the cake Peggy brought and I am sure almost everyone had a piece or two, I was good and only had one as I am still trying to watch what I eat. One of the other girls had way more will power than I did and was able to pass up the cake. She is doing so well eating right and exercising, you go girl. It really is hard to do and we are all so proud of her.

After dinner Melissa and I played partners against Maya and Vivien in shuffle board. Melissa and I won but it was a close game, at one point I had all 4 of my pucks counting, one on the 3 point, one on the 2 point and the other 2 were just 1 point each but we were looking at getting 7 point and Maya only had one shot left so I was sure we would get something. Well she knocked off my 2 and 3 point and left hers on the table to get 2 points so we got nothing that round. It really was a good shot that I didn’t think was possible. It was a really good game. Well cameras were out so I got a picture with Melissa.

I got a chance to talk with Yin (cute name and one I should be able to remember), she just joined our group and has only been out a couple time with us now. We actually split dinner as I really am trying to cut down on what I eat plus we knew there was cake to eat also. It was nice to chat with her and get to know her better, she is really nice and I look forward to seeing her out with the group a lot more.

We also had another new girl Stacy there, I think this was her first time out and she was a little nervous but she looked great very nicely dressed and very passable. I talked with her several times over the evening and she is so nice. She is very soft spoken and even talking to her I think you would have a hard time telling. It was great meeting her and I hope to get to talk to her some more next time she is out with the group.

Later on two customers came over to our group, Adam and Jennifer and asked if they could join us. They even brought a picture of beer for the group which was nice but not needed. They spent about 20 minutes talking to us; they had just met that night at the P-club. Adam asked me to take a picture of them with his phone and then asked to have a picture with me and you know I can’t turn down a photo opportunity.

The highlight of the night came close to closing when another guy name Gabe came over and told me the he and his girlfriend thought I looked just lovely and they just wanted to tell me, how nice is that and such a bust for ones ego. As I have said it seems that most of the people at the P-Club like our group and enjoy us being there. It would be so nice if everyone was this open to girls like us. I really think the more we interact with the general public the more they will see us as no different than them.

It was a really good night and we all had so much fun. I cannot think of a better way to spend a Friday night and close out a week than with your best friends. This week will be busy for me but I hope to get to Starbucks maybe Thursday night but not sure about next Friday. I need Saturday the 28 off so may have to work Friday night to make this happen.

Have a great week.

Big Happy Birthday to Cassandra & Roxy.

May 14, 2011 Posted by | P-Club | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Sunny day at Starbucks in a busy week.

Well it has been a busy week and will stay that way for the next 5 to 6 weeks. My schedule will be so messed up that it may be hard to get out. I will be out this Friday which is good as we are having a birthday party for Cassandra. She started the yahoo group (Rose_City_T-Girls) I belong to here in Portland. Our group now has over 200 members and is very active. Cassandra’s wife is throwing her the party and I really hope a lot of the group shows up. Next week I will most likely not make it out on Friday so really need to enjoy this Friday.

Well it was a really nice day today right about 70 and sunny all day. It also stays light out later so leaving my house will get harder. I know as the weather gets nicer the chance of one of my neighbors seeing me leave will increase. Well anyway I am at Starbuck’s again and when I got here they were dead I was the only one inside as I think everyone was out enjoying the sun shine as we have had rain almost every day this year so far. It is now after 8 and there are about 5 others here so still quiet but has let me to get caught up on all my e-mails so now I have time to just surf the internet. I even had time to chat with Tracy a new friend on facebook.

There are a few movies coming out the next few weeks I want to see so now I am thinking of maybe going to the movies as Susan. I did it a couple time last year and it was fun but I think this time I will see if someone from the group wants to go. I think that would be a lot of fun, not a big group maybe 2 to 6 of us. I think that would be a fun outing. There is also talk of maybe going bowling which would also be fun but I would not be able to wear my nails as they would pop off. It has been a long time since Susan was out without nails.

Well that is all I have for tonight, hope you all have a great week. I will post again this weekend.

May 10, 2011 Posted by | Starbucks | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Rose City T-girls GG night at P-Club

Well as usual it was Friday night and Susan was going out with her friends. We go to the P-Club every Friday night and last week Cassandra had the idea to have a GG (genetic girl) night, our group has over 200 members now and probably 20 to 25 are wives, girlfriends or just women we have met who like us and joined the group. The thought was to get as many of them there and also invite others that we may know who don’t belong to the group. I thought this was a great idea and although the only GG’s I know are members of the group as I have kept Susan and my male side separate it was nice to make a special invitation to them and let them know we appreciate their support of us.

Well I got there a little after 7:30 and there were only a couple others there so I wondered if we would have that great of a turnout, well it wasn’t long and I stopped wondering as members started to show up. We had a great turnout. I tried to count a couple times as did Cassandra and Cristine but as we had so many at about 7 different tables, at the bar, playing pool, shuffle board and dancing none of us could get a good count our best guess is between 40 & 45.

Well we started off with dinner which I was ready for as I had not had lunch. And all sat and talked for a bit. After that Maya and I played partners in shuffle board and we did well, we won 3 games before losing and we only lost by 2 so it was a close game.

Now came the hard part as we had so many people there I really wanted to make sure I met everyone and got a chance to talk to everyone there, the problem was with so many it really made for short conversations. There were several new people and maybe 6 to 8 more I have not met before which is always nice. The problem is remembering names, not only who is who but just remembering the name. I really like to think it is my blonde hair and not my age as Susan still feels young. Well I will not even try to use the names as I would get them mixed up or even wrong.

There were lots of pictures but I put my purse with my camera on the floor under one of the middle tables against the wall, which is a really safe place as it is very hard to get to with all the people we had there. The only problem was even I couldn’t get to it that easy so I of course have no pictures and will have to wait for the ones others took to be posted to our group.

Peggy was there which is nice as she is working again which is great but makes it harder for her to get out with the group so we had a chance to talk which I so enjoy. she will be out again next week as we are doing a party for Cassandra who has a birthday on May 16 and she is having a party for her, Peggy is Cassandra’s wife and so supportive of all of us.

Alice came up from Salem which was great as she does not get out that much and it is such a long drive especially going home after a fun night out. It was nice to see her again and talk with her. Alice is the first T-Girl I met that I still have contact with; we were at Embers several years ago when we met Cassandra and joined the Rose_City_T-Girls group. It really is strange to think about it that way. If I had not met Alice on Line and we had not arranged to meet that night at Embers for dinner and to talk we would have never met Cassandra, joined the group or met all these wonderful people.

Mellissa was there and brought her friend Heather who she also brought to Cassandra’s Halloween party. Mellissa is so fun and so supportive of us T-girls. Her and Heather played Maya and me in Shuffle board, one of the games we won but we had a fun time. Mellissa sometimes joins me at Starbucks when my night out coincides with a night she has free. As much as I enjoy going to Starbucks by myself and playing on my computer it is so much nicer to have someone else there to chat with, kind of a girl’s night out.

There was also a couple that showed up and they were so nice. They have only been dating for 4 weeks and he just came out to her last week he liked to crossdress. She was totally cool with it and thought they should go out. Didn’t hear how they found out about our group and where we would be but they made it there. Had a chance to talk with them briefly and we invited them to join the group sand told them we come to the P-Club every Friday night so I hope to see them out again and get to know them a little better.

It is strange as our group has grown so fast I think we have lost a little of the personal touch which is good and bad at the same time. We definitely have a wonderful and active group and I would say we get more T-Girls out on a regular basis than in any other city around. As I said earlier with so many you are spread so thin. I think back a few years when we had maybe 5 to 7 of us out we could all sit at one table and talk between all of us. Maybe we should have a few smaller events with just a handful of girls that way we really have a chance to talk and spend time with each other but then on the other hand that might create smaller groups within the group. It is hard to say which is better. I know that I feel more comfortable with the people I know better and tend to go to that group, human nature but then you really don’t get to know the others in your own group. Something I am very aware of as I am very shy so I tend to stay to myself or those I know so I am making a really effort to try to talk to everyone and overcome this. It is strange though as Susan I really am more outgoing and not as shy as my male self and I think this group has really helped me on this. That old saying “I want to be like Mike” (basketball, Michael Jordan) well I want to be like Cassandra as she can go up and talk with anyone, anytime, anyplace and make you feel totally at ease. I am getting better and do go up to people more and talk to them but still very hard for me.

Well as I said we had a great turnout and most stayed really late, even Chris who was there till almost 1 am which is really late for him. I think when we left at almost 2 am we still had about 10 of us there. Jennifer who had gotten a ride there with someone else needed a ride home so I volunteered. It was nice to have the chance to talk with her a little more; she is one of the girls who is really planning on going to Diva Las Vegas next year. Well with that I got home about 2:45 am so it was another late night but so much fun.

I hope to see all of you out again and have more time to talk with each of you as you are all so special to me. Have a great week.

May 7, 2011 Posted by | Out and about as Susan, P-Club | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

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