why do I or any man cross-dress

Why do I or any man cross-dress? I seem to get that question a lot in e-mails both from male and females. Now I cannot speak for everyone, just myself. So let’s start with a simple question, why do some people like chocolate and other do not? Why do some people like football while others like baseball or basketball?  Why do some people like the color red while others like blue or green?  Why does some woman wear makeup and get their nails done while others do not? All good questions and it comes down to personal preference.

 A little information about cross-dressers, most are heterosexual (not gay). Also about 25% of males cross-dress to some extent, be it wearing woman’s panties or nylons once in a while to completely dressing up. This is my fun fact. Next time you are out count men and realize that 1 in 4 have or will cross-dress at some point to some degree. Now let’s not just pick on men, all you woman out there. Have you ever worn your boyfriends or husbands shirt, pajamas or shoes? If so you have also cross-dressed. Cross-dressing is simply put, wearing clothing generally associated with the opposite sex. I think with this broad view most would fall into this category. Now for me it does go beyond the simple wearing of one piece of clothing. I like to dress up completely including makeup. This is where I will talk about just myself.

 First of all I do not see myself as a woman trapped in a man’s body. I do not want to be a woman all the time as I like my male side just as much. I am not gay (I am totally heterosexual). I also do not cross-dress for sexual pleaser. In simple words I enjoy it just like chocolate or baseball. Some people exercise or run to relax or relieve stress I become Susan. Susan is my way to get away from my normal life and everything in it for a while, kind of like a mini vacation. How would you like to be able to take a vacation anytime you want? For me I can even if only for a few hours. My time as Susan is just that, my male side and everything that goes with him is put aside and Susan is there. It doesn’t matter what I do as Susan it is just being her for a while. It can be as simple as doing my nails or makeup or even cleaning the house I am still getting away from the normal daily grind and I find it totally relaxing. Like anything you do it will grow with you and expand. Take baseball, the first time you watched a game you were just learning but over time you learn more and more. You learn the teams and players, you watch more and even start going to games. Cross-dressing is the same for me, at first it was just makeup and then came clothing and shoes and then I wanted to go out as Susan. Runners start of running a mile and then work up to 2 mile and then more always pushing what they can do and so do cross-dressers.

 When I am out as Susan I just want to be excepted as a person named Susan. I want no special treatment, just treated the same as everyone else with kindness and caring. You will find that cross-dressers come from all walks of life, doctors, executives, police officers, politicians and just about every other occupation you can think off. We are truly your next door neighbors. You grew up with us and we were some of your best friends but had to keep this part of our lives a secret for fear of how people would react. Some of that fear is misplaced as I have found that some people are totally okay and excepting of cross-dressers. I have a few friends whose wives not only know but who help and support them. So in closing I ask each of you to ask yourself one question, if your best friend told you he or she liked to cross-dress what would you do? Would you stay friends? Would you end your friendship? Could you accept their cross-dressing as long as you didn’t have to see it? Or would you totally except it and be willing to see them dressed.  I only ask because we all tend to act without thinking things through in the spur of the moment and may not be how we truly feel. We say things we don’t really mean and feeling are hurt and we can loose friends for a simple misunderstanding.

People come and go in our lives but true friends are a blessing and are rare and we should never let go of a good friend. Oh I guess I have one more thing for all the ladies out there. Would it not be nice to have a boyfriend or husband that shared all your interests? One who liked to go shopping with you? One who could talk about fashion and clothing and even makeup? One who when you asked how you looked could really give you an honest answer because he knows about clothes and makeup. just think of how much fun and how much you would have in common with a cross-dresser and you would never hear the words, “Aren’t you ready yet” or “what takes you so long to get ready”. Anyway these are my thoughts on cross-dressing and why like to cross-dress and I am sure I am not alone and many of the cross-dressers out there share some if not all of these same feelings. We are not freaks or perverts we are just men who enjoy and like expressing our softer feminine side. You will also find us more caring and easy going.

Hug Susan

Halloween night Party, one word awsome

Halloween night was awesome. My costume was great, I was Wonder Woman. It took some work but it was so worth it. I went to a party at Cassandra and Peggy’s house. They were so great to throw a Halloween party for all us T-girls. Peggy did a great job decorating their house, you two rock. On the way there I did stop at Albertson’s and picked up my veggie trays because I wanted to go shopping in my costume even if only for a few minutes. It was so fun. The party was just getting started when I got there so we started to take pictures, I favorite thing to do for t-girls. I have posted some on my flickr page. Maya and Bev even showed up which was so nice. They are so much fun.

Several of the t-girls even brought their wives and girlfriend with them. It is so nice to know that there are woman out there that not only tolerate but except and support cross-dressing. To all you ladies you are awesome and I can only hope I can be so lucky. It was nice to get to talk to everyone and get to know them better. Our group has gotten so big there are t-girls I haven’t met yet, or just barley know. My goal is to meet them all and get to know each and every one of them. Even Peggy’s friend Julie showed up in a cute fire fighter costume. It was nice to see her again and I got a chance to talk to her for a while. There were a lot of good and cute costumes there. I got second place in the costume contest which was so fun. Later on the bar tender gave out 4 garter belts to the cutes girls there and I was one of the lucky ladies along with Julie, Peggy and Brenda.

I had a great time and even got to meet Candy, a new member of our group. She is really nice and pretty and we seem to be a lot alike. We share a lot of the same feelings about dressing and why we do it. She is married and only came out to her wife a few weeks ago and yet her wife also seems to be okay with her dressing. I look forward to getting to know her better and maybe even meet her wife some night if she comes out with her. It was such a fun time and I lost track of how many people were there but I bet it was at least 50 or more.

I am so lucky to have found such good friends. You Are all so awesome and make it so much fun to be Susan and go out.

Thanks again Peggy and Cassandra for opening your house up to us for a wonderful party. You are the best.

Night before Halloween out with friends

I went out to meet some friend at Embers on Friday night October 30^th. It was the night before Halloween but I didn’t wear my costume as I wanted to save it for the party on Halloween. I knew Cassandra and Lisa would be there but didn’t know if any of the other girls would show up as most are planning on going to the party. I got there about 7:30 and Cass, Lisa and Teresa were already there. It is always nice to see them as they are some of my best friends and I look forward to the time we spend together all week. Teresa and I spent time talking about all kinds of stuff from computers to going out in public. I think this is my favorite part of being out, girl talk. It gives us a chance to get to know each other better and build on our friendships.

Embers started off pretty slow but by the time the show started it was really crowded and our group of t-girls had grown. We had over 10 and we were having a great time and some even wore costumes and now I was thinking maybe I should have worn mine, next year I will. They had a costume contest and there were some good costumes. Seeing all the costumes is really making me look forward to the party. Saturday night should be so much fun. Cassandra thinks there will be lots of t-girls there although she is not sure how many will have on costumes. I am bringing a veggie tray to the party and I am still thinking of stopping on the way to pick it up just to wear my costume into the store. I think that would be fun.

Hope you all have a fun and magical Halloween

Susan

Sitting at Starbuck’s, Susan night out

Well it is another Wednesday night for Susan. Tonight I tried on my costume and did a full makeup to see how I will look on Halloween. I think it will be a good costume and should be a lot of fun. I am going to a party at a friend’s house so I won’t be out in public so as I am bringing a veggie tray I am now thinking of stopping on the way to the party to pick it up just so I can be out in my costume. I will have to give that some thought. Then as I wanted to go out for a little while I did a quick change and off I went.

Again I went to the Starbuck’s I normally go to and they are still closed, just the drive through is open. That is the second week in a row so I went back to the Starbuck’s I went to last week and they were packed no place to even sit and as I wanted to be on my computer I went to yet another one and that is where I am at this point. There are only a couple people here now but it is still nice to be out. I have some work to catch up on and this is my way of having fun while working.

Ready for Halloween

Well I got the last of my costume this morning and put it all together and it looks really cute. I am really happy with the way it turned out. It is just a little tight and small on me but it worked out better than I hoped. I am so excited now about Halloween next week when I get to wear my costume. It will be so much fun and I will have to get lots of pictures so I can post them on my Flickr page. Hope everyone is looking forward to Halloween and has a wonderful time.

Friday night at Embers 10-23-2009

Well it was another fantastic Friday night out for Susan. It started off kind of slow with just Lisa, Cassandra and me but soon girls started to show up and by 9:30 we had about 20 t-girls. I got to know a few of them better as we sat up by the pool table so we could talk as well as watch the show and of course play pool. I only played a couple game and lost both but it was still fun. Susan just has to play more and work on her game.

We talked a little about other places we could go to expand our time out as girls and one place was a comedy club so I think we are going to try and make that happen. Don’t get me wrong I really like going to Embers but every week you see the same thing. I would love to go someplace new once in a while. It would be good for us and give us a chance to meet new people that may never meet a crossdresser or t-girl. I have gone to Starbuck’s and out shopping with very little problems and I think the more we get out in main stream USA the more acceptance we as a group we receive. It would also be a lot of fun. Barb and I talked for quite a while and she also thought maybe a movie night out and dinner or shopping would be fun and I agree. I have done both but by myself. It would be so much better and more fun to go with others be it other crossdressers or even GG’s (genetic girls) that accept us as who we are, men who like to express their feminine side.

Sorry got a little sidetracked, the show was really good and one of our girls (Amber) was celibrationg her birthday and Victoria worked it so she would get a lap dance. Even Alice showed up and I got to spend some time talking to her which was great. I have not seen her for a couple months and as she lives down south she won’t be out again till the end of January. She is the first t-girl I really got to know well and have been keeping in touch through e-mail. As I said it was a fun night and I hope we can plan some more outings.

out and about on Wednesday night Oct. 21 2009

Well I made my usual trip to Starbucks tonight only to find them closed. They had some kind of problem and had repair men there working. I was disappointed as I had been looking forward to getting out tonight. So what is a girl to do, I drove up the street and found another Starbuck’s Seems they are all over the place. Actually I knew about this one and have been here once before. So now I am drinking my latte and catching up on my e-mails.

I have decided on my costume for Halloween and although I have not found one that fits I have some ideas on how to make it work (lose 15 LB this week). No seriously I really think I can make this costume work and it should look really cute. It is going to be a busy week for me trying to get everything together for my costume plus the fact I am working extra hours to cover another employee who is out with the flu. If I can stay healthy I think I will pick up extra hours from people calling in sick. A girl can always use extra spending cash for clothes.

looking for a cute Halloween costume for Susan this year

Well I spent most of the day out looking for a costume for Halloween. I found several really cute costumes but none of them fit me. It is hard being a big girl. I have not given up yet, I really want a cute female costume for this year. I don’t know why they don’t make them just a little bigger. I really don’t want to go to the costume party just as Susan. Don’t get me wrong there are female costumes that will fit me but the really cute ones all seem to be for female’s size 12 and under.
I went to at least a dozen costume stores today but I have not given up. I am going to have an awesome costume this year. I will keep looking this week and next weekend till I find my perfect costume. I did not get out this weekend so I missed seeing all my friends but I plan on going out next weekend and I will go to Starbucks again on Wednesday for an hour or so. It is nice at Starbucks as I can get some of my work done on my computer there and it is fun doing it as Susan.
Halloween is coming so fast, two weeks from today. I have been so looking forward to Halloween, I can’t wait and I plan to take lots of pictures at the party and will post them on my flickr page.

Looking for Halloween costume for this year

Well tonight I went out again for a couple hours. I went to the Starbucks I have been going to and enjoyed a quiet evening on my computer. It is so nice to get out in public as Susan. I spent the time searching on line for a Halloween costume. I am going to a party this year and I really want a cute costume. The problem is all the cute female costumes run small and I can’t find one that will fit me. I either need to lose some weight fast or come up with a costume that I make myself.
I really want a good costume this year. I go out every year as Susan but this year will be different. Any ideas please leave comment.

Friday October 9 2009 at Embers

Well it was another fun night out Friday. We all met up at Embers about 7:30 and they were having a special show. Ciara Delarosa was hosting the show. She is running for Rose Empress 51. I have met her several times before and she is always friendly to the t-girls. They were kind of crowded so we sat up in the corner by the pool table.
We had our usual group of t-girls (Cassandra, Peggy, Maya, Bev, Lisa, Barb and of course me) there. It is so much fun to get together with them. They are my best friends and I look forward to seeing them every Friday. It is a shame I cannot go out more and spend more time with my friends. They are such a big part of my life and I am feel I could trust them with more about Susan’s other side.
It was such a fun night, Sitting up by the pool table was nice as we could still see and hear the show but it was not as loud so we could also talk which is always nice. There is something about sharing a little girl talk with friends. I even played some pool and although I am not real good at it I did win 5 games in a row before I lost. Even Victoria Sinclair showed up and she is so much fun. We stayed out till 1:30 am before we headed home. I think I will go to Starbuck’s on Wednesday for an hour or so just so Susan can get out again.